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RESEARCHERS say there is a need for a national website where male survivors of sexual abuse, their whanau and friends can tap into information, services and self-help resources . . . and that is where Male Survivors Aotearoa can help. The need was noted in the Ministry of Social Development-commissioned 2019 report, What Is Known […]
Addressing trauma ‘not an overnight fix’
While it is connected to a men’s centre set up to confront whanau violence, the new Te Hokai: Male Survivors Tairawhiti service is for victims, not perpetrators, of abuse. IT was the events in Gisborne of late 2006 that were the breaking point for Tim Marshall. In November, three people were dead – two by […]
Te Hokai a step on the journey to healing
A Gisborne support service for male survivors of sexual abuse is run by men, for men, with a particular focus on te tane Tairawhiti. A GISBORNE support service for male survivors of sexual abuse is overseen by Tauawhi Trust, a community partner to Tauawhi Men’s Centre and Presbyterian Support East Coast. But the service is […]
Te Hokai image illustrates journey of learning
WHEN thinking about creating a name for Te Hokai: Male Survivors Tairawhiti, artist Nick Tupara sat on the riverbank in Turanga – where the three rivers meet – to reflect on what that might look like. Talking at Te Hokai’s launch in April 2021, Nick spoke of walks around the awa (river) and over the […]
Te Hokai helps men reclaim stolen mana
A Gisborne support service for male survivors of sexual abuse is run by men, for men, with a particular focus on te tane Tairawhiti. “YOU’RE weak.” “You let him.” “You’re gay.” “You were asking for it.” These falsehoods often run through the minds of male survivors of sexual abuse and, as a survivor himself, Winton […]
‘It can happen to any male’
MANY Kiwi males never talk about the sexual abuse they have suffered and there are many reasons for that, says Wellington male sexual abuse agency Mosaic-Tiaki Tangata. It might be the depth of their trauma, or it might be because they are scared they won’t be taken seriously. Whatever the reason, Mosiac says it’s important […]
Te Hokai aims to reduce barriers to support
SO many men say that in carrying their trauma, they feel absolutely alone, so they need to be in a space where they feel change is possible,” Tim Marshall , trustee of the Tauawhi Trust that oversees Tairawhiti’s Te Hokai support service for male survivors of sexual abuse. Launched in April, 2021, Te Hokai offers […]
Research explores what men need for recovery
WHAT do we know about effective recovery services for men who have been sexually abused? was the big question posed by the writers of a 2019 report. The answer was “not much”, but the authors of the report hoped that their research would add to the further development of services to support men who had […]
Police ‘mythbusters’ tackle sexual assault stories
THE New Zealand Police see many – too many – incidents of sexual assault and they also hear some challenging stories to go along with them. Here are just a few of the sexual assault mythbusters NZ Police has come up with to counter misinformation: SOURCE: New Zealand Police
Cultural connections can alter impact on survivors of sexual assault
MAORI endure more than their fair share of both family and sexual violence so it could take a Maori world view to deal with it, researchers say. The fall-out from sexual assault cannot be measured by the incident (or incidences) itself. Rather, it is tied to the impact on the individual and is influenced by […]